Nigerian husbands need help – Monalisa Chinda

Nigerian husbands need help - Monalisa Chinda

Stand out actress Monalisa Chinda whose first marriage to a showbiz promoter-Dejo Richards was in 2004 but crashed a few years later, like most celebrities she rushed into another publicized relationship with Lanre Nzeribe but the relationship turned out a disaster.

When she found love in the hands of a childhood friend, Victor Coker she knew her heart was home and she married him, and ever since then, she has never looked happier.

She took to social media page to tell Nigerian men how to get any woman happy ““A man must derive pleasure from serving his girlfriend (or) wife. This can only be achieved in a relationship based on true love and mutual respect.

A woman becomes even more beautiful and adorable for the man that pampers her. African men (fail) to understand that acts of love and respect bring out the best in a woman.” We reached out to understand what prompted her post and she said.

““Beyond how a man looks or what he has, what is more important is how he treats a woman. Men are rarely advised on how to treat women in a relationship; most of what you see is advice to women. I just decided to give the men some tips that would do them a lot of good if they follow it.”

Speaking on what convinced her that her husband was the man for her, she said, “I found that I was at peace with him. He is God-fearing and has a good relationship with his family. I also always like to be in his company, and I knew it deep inside me that I had found the one.

He loves my daughter like his own child and she feels very comfortable with him as well. Of course, there were a couple of other things I looked out for and the good thing was that he surpassed all my expectations.”

On the lessons she learned from her past marriage, she said, “Don’t let your emotions becloud your judgment; you have to use your head at all times. I believe I’m a humble person and I don’t have any problem admitting it when I’m wrong. I have also learned to be patient and not make hasty decisions.

In all, marriage is a lifelong training ground so you learn every day. It is important to understand the person you’re in a relationship with; know their likes and dislikes and that should guide your conduct, so that you wouldn’t have issues.